Posted: Post Date – 04:31 PM, Thursday – October 27th
So why do people usually ghost? According to Bumble’s research, 27% of Indians surveyed said silence is better than hurting others’ feelings, and 23% said they want to avoid awkward conversations.
Hyderabad: With Halloween just around the corner, it’s that time of year again, and we love spooky things. However, what someone doesn’t appreciate at any time is being ghosted on a date. Often, people don’t really know why they’re being ghosted while dating someone.
To understand why ghosting remains so prominent in dating, women-first dating and social networking app Bumble commissioned a study that found one in five (21%) Indians surveyed are currently dating or have been dating , they say they’re always dating ghosts.
So why do people usually ghost? According to Bumble’s research, 27% of Indians surveyed said silence is better than hurting others’ feelings, and 23% said they want to avoid awkward conversations.
Bumble’s relationship expert Shahzeen Shivdasani shares tips on how to avoid ghosting:
if spark does not exist
When you know someone, you may feel that you are not compatible after talking to them for a while. Instead of disappearing into them, try saying, “As much as I love getting to know you, I really don’t feel the spark or see the connection developing”. You can end the message with a simple, friendly indication that the relationship has come to an end.
Your personality and lifestyle are inconsistent
While opposites may attract, this is not always the case. Accommodating different lifestyle choices may not be right for you, or your personality may vary greatly depending on your compatibility. In this case, instead of imitating someone, try saying, “I’m looking for someone whose character or lifestyle is more like me.”
no romantic connection
Sometimes, even if everything seems fine, you may just not be interested in romance. Instead of imitating them, try saying, “I don’t see a romantic connection here, but I still want to be friends if you will”. The good news is that rejecting someone with kindness can also be as simple as saying, “Thank you for the fun date, but I don’t feel a romantic connection.”
you don’t want a serious relationship
You may not be looking for a serious relationship when you’re making a connection. If this happens and you know it’s best not to be serious, but the other person is serious, be clear and let them know the truth: “It’s great to meet you, but I’m not looking for a serious relationship during this time.”
